Getting married? This advise might help.

Marriage advice is a common topic of discussion among married couples.  The act of marriage is a big commitment, and it often requires a lot of effort to make things work out.  However, if you want to ensure that your marriage lasts for the long haul, there are certain things you should do in order to keep the love alive.

1. Communicate with your partner constantly. 

One of the difficult parts of marriage is when couples don't know what's happening with each other.

Communicate with your partner constantly.   It is important to understand that the way you communicate with each other is not just about the words you say — it’s also about how you say them. When things are going well, ask yourself what made this moment so special; when things aren’t going so well, ask yourself what could make it better. In either case, try to identify what needs improvement and work towards making those changes immediately.

Be kind and generous towards one another. Showing love in small ways will go a long way toward building trust and strengthening your relationship with each other over time. Be kind and generous with your words, actions, and thoughts because these things matter most when it comes to keeping the peace in your marriage!

2. Appreciate your partner no matter what.

 Lack of appreciation leads to intimidating attitudes toward each other.  Maybe they cook dinner or clean the house or mow the lawn. Maybe they take out the trash or drive you places or pick up groceries when you’re too tired to go yourself. Appreciate them showing up on time, calling when they say they will, paying attention when you talk or listening to what you need right now.

Appreciate your partner no matter what. Show them that they mean the world to you by doing little things that show them how much they mean to you. If he gets home from work before you do, greet him at the door with a kiss and a smile on your face, not a frown or an eye roll. If she spends hours cleaning up after dinner so that everything looks perfect for guests, thank her for making such a wonderful meal instead of criticizing her poor cooking skills (even though it might not be that great).

If he makes an effort to help out with chores around the house without being asked, let him know how much it means to you by thanking him or giving him a hug (maybe even both). If she surprises you with flowers or chocolates on Valentine's Day or Christmas, tell her how much those gestures mean to you instead of complaining about having

3. Value their efforts always.  

I have a house manager wife. Who has a brain like an Ombudsman to scrutinize everything. Make sure that you value every little idea that they are sharing.

I have a house manager wife. Who has a brain like an Ombudsman to scrutinize everything? Make sure that you value every little idea that they are sharing.

Don’t lose patience with them easily. While they are always being critical and analyzing things, they are also very sensitive to the slightest comments from you or anyone else. So, it’s important for them to know that you mean well and you appreciate their efforts.

Encourage them to talk about their problems openly and honestly. For example, if your partner is upset about something at work or home, don’t brush it under the carpet. Instead, ask them what happened so that you can understand better and offer support if needed.

These ideas were originally shared from the quiet of quitting. This can apply to every area of life. Whether we have family, we are handling a team or taking in charge of a company.  A lot of marriages quit because of a lack of appreciation, communication, and being undervalued. That applies to corporate work or other areas of life. 

Marriage advice is hard to come by. When you're struggling with your marriage, it's difficult to hear anything positive about your relationship. It's even harder to hear anything that makes sense.

But if you want to make your marriage last, you have to be proactive about learning how to become a better spouse. The good news is that there are plenty of books out there that can help you do just that!

Here are the top 7 marriage advice books:
1. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver
2. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
3. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Linda Banner
4. Husbandry: How to Manage Your Husband Without Losing Your Mind by Gary Smalley and John Trent
5. The 5 Love Languages Singles Edition: The Secret That Will Revolutionize Your Relationship by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell
6. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs
7. Getting the Love You Want (30th Anniversary Edition): A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix.
 

About the author 

Jack Marbida is a husband to his wife Wene and a father of 2 little boys Isaac and Israel, he is a financial advisor, speaker, and writer who helps families be financially stable and grow their relationships. He works with families to help them reach their goals by teaching them about financial literacy and helping them develop a healthy relationship with money.

He has been featured in Sun Life Financials and others for his work as a financial coach. He is also the founder of Online Advisors Financial Education, which provides free educational content through blogs and videos.

Jack speaks at conferences across the Philippines on topics such as family finances, and personal and professional growth.  

You can contact Jack Marbida through his social media accounts or email him at papajackph@gmail.com.

Cheers!