The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Hacks

We've been married for over 7 years now, and I have to say that marriage is not as easy as it's portrayed in the movies. Sure, there are ups and downs like any relationship, we are not exempted from that.  But one thing is for sure after you have gone through those times, if you do not give up, there is always a blessing. 

There are no classes or courses on how to best navigate these challenges together! That is why, I believe we should start teaching young people about marriage before they even go off into a relationship, so they can better understand what they're getting into. I am sure its a lot of things for them to know.  

Let's dive into some good learning below. If you pick up something that's really interesting for you please go ahead and share it with your friends and loved ones. Please post your comment below or reach me on my contacts.

1. Marriage is sacred. Did you know that? Don't just get into it just because you feel like it. 

Getting married is a huge decision and should be taken very seriously because there are lots of consequences if things go wrong in your marriage.  Its more than just a document that you sign.  Its more of spiritual.  It's important to make sure that you're ready before committing yourself legally and emotionally but you also need to prepare yourself spiritually.

If you're not sure whether you should get married, why are you in a relationship? I believe the purpose of getting into a relationship is to get married. If you are in a relationship for a show. You are winding into a loophole of frustration. Some people might be going into relationships because they just want to have fun. Another bad thing to consider.

If you are going into a relationship for fun, then what's the point of getting married? You're just wasting your time and money. Marriage is about commitment, love, and trust.

If you don't want to get married, then why did you get into a relationship? You know what I am saying. If you are going into a relationship only for fun and sex, then it is not worth getting married. Don't even try.

2. What is the foundation of marriage?

When we begin to study marriage, it's important to remember that God is the foundation of marriage. Our marriages are built on His love for us and ours for Him. We reached this level of our marriage when I realized that infatuation or love toward my wife is really not the foundation of why we get married.  Because at the end of the day, the love that we feel to each other may change when we fight.  When I found this principle I need to hang on to the truth that God is the foundation of marriage. 

This means that your spouse can never replace God in your life, nor should he or she try. Your faith has to be centered on Christ alone before anything else will fall into place correctly in your life together as husband and wife.

Being married means having two people who will always be there for each other no matter what happens--but if one person puts his or her trust in something else than God (like money), then trouble may ensue sooner rather than later!  And that is dangerous.  

3. Learn to trust each other and forgive each other often.

I learned from a seminar that marriage is a union of two forgiving sinners. That is how marriage gets successful.

Although, trust is a major ingredient of a successful marriage. Trust is built through honesty, communication, and forgiveness. It takes time to build, but it can also be broken easily. Trust is important in all relationships--especially the most intimate ones like marriage!

Trust isn't the same thing as faith or belief that someone will do what they say they'll do (or not do something). That's just called having confidence in them--and maybe even trusting them enough not to check up on everything they say or do all the time!

The best way I've heard it explained before was this: if two people have built up enough trust over time together then even if one person does something bad there still might be some level of understanding why that happened without having any need for explanations from either party involved.

If a person has a history of lying or cheating (or both), it might take a lot for them to rebuild that trust with you. If they don't

understand why what they did was wrong, then it's hard to know how to avoid doing the same thing again in the future. But it is still essential that each of us would forgive at the end of the day.   I have learned this the hard way.  We went through counseling session but the most that helped us is when we went through Glorious Hope from CCF.  Its very helpful, give it a try!  There is an upcoming program starting this April 2024.

4. There will be times when you feel like giving up, but never give up on each other or yourselves. 

Marriage is hard. It's not just the physical and emotional commitment that many people think it is, but also a spiritual one as well. Marriage is about more than just two people who love each other--it's about God and His plan for your life.

It may sound like a lot of pressure to put on yourself and your spouse, but this will help you both grow closer together as individuals while also building an unbreakable bond between each other that only death can break (or divorce).

5. Marriage requires work but it is worth it in the end, remember that

Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires work, but it is worth it in the end. Marriage requires sacrifice and commitment on both sides of the marriage, but it will be worth it in the end.

6. Do you know God's plan for marriage?

You may have heard the saying, "Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint." But did you know that God's plan for marriage is actually more like an ultra-marathon? In fact, it should be viewed as an eternal race and not just something that lasts until death. You have heard about during the wedding, when it is mentioned, 'till death do as part?

Marriage is meant to be a picture of Christ's love for us--a reflection of His love in how we treat each other. The Bible says: "Husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies; each one loves himself" (Ephesians 5:28). And Jesus said: " A new commandment I give to you that you love one another even as I have loved you" (John 15:12). So when we get married, we're agreeing before God to make our spouse feel loved every single day for the rest of our lives!

The way we treat each other has everything to do with whether or not our marriage will succeed or fail; because if either partner feels unloved by their spouse then it will be difficult for them to stay committed through any kind of hardship or trial together."

7. Many of us did not study marriage first.

-We didn't study marriage first.

-We didn't learn about marriage in school.
-We didn't learn about marriage in church.
-We didn't learn about marriage from our parents or grandparents, who may have been divorced or even abusive to each other.
-And we certainly didn't get any instruction on how to be a good spouse from our friends, who were probably just as clueless (or worse) themselves!

8. We are taught in high school about all kinds of subjects, from math to history, but no one teaches us about starting and maintaining a successful marriage.

If you're in a relationship and thinking about getting married, I would recommend that you take some time to study marriage before making the commitment. You can do this by going through a marriage counseling session with your partner. At our church CCF, we provide 6 full sessions of marriage counseling before holding the marriage ceremony.

I would also recommend that you take some time to study yourself before getting married. You can do this by going through a personal counseling session with your pastor. At our church CCF, we provide 6 full sessions of personal counseling before holding the wedding ceremony.

Going through these sessions will help you make a decision that will benefit both of you for years to come.

I would also recommend that you take some time to study yourself before getting married. You can do this by going through a personal counseling session with your pastor. At our church CCF, we provide 6 full sessions of personal counseling before holding the wedding ceremony. Going through these sessions will help you make a decision that will benefit both of you for years to come. They may stay together because of the children, or because they don't know how to get out of the relationship. Some of them just let it pass.

If you are one of these people, you need to understand that being unhappy is not the same as having a bad marriage. You still love each other and want what's best for your family, but things just aren't as good as they used to be when you first got married. This can happen if you do not attend any other seminar about marriage, try to look for some groups or churches that hold biblical seminars on how marriages should function so that we can learn from them instead of making mistakes ourselves.

9. When a marriage fails there are many consequences for both individuals and for society at large.

Divorce is yet to be approved in the Philippines, we have annulment but either way, it has a lot of consequences. I am not seeing any good thing that it brings anyway.

Divorce is expensive and it can be emotionally draining. It affects everyone involved, especially the children, who may need to go through a lot of emotional trauma during this time. Separation can also affect society at large because broken homes lead to more crime and poverty, which then leads to more broken homes creating an endless cycle that we need to break as soon as possible!

10. Marriage either succeeds or fails based on how much you put into it (time, energy, and money).

You can't expect to get out of marriage what you didn't put into it. It takes time, energy, and money to make a marriage work.

This means if two people are not willing to invest in those things (and more), then they probably shouldn't get married in the first place.

Marriage takes commitment and sacrifice. It means being there for your spouse even when they don't deserve it or when it's not easy. It means putting aside personal needs in order to meet the needs of another person.

Marriage is not for everyone, and that's ok. If you are not ready for marriage, then don't do it. Marriage will only cause more problems than it solves if you are not ready or willing to work on things together as a couple. If you want something real in your life then take some time out and reflect on whether marriage is what really fits best with who you are and what kind of life do you want. Don't rush into anything unless it feels right because there is no point wasting time with someone who doesn't share your values or goals just because they have asked for a ring!

About the author 

Jack Marbida is a husband to his wife Wene and a father of 2 little boys Isaac and Israel, he is a financial advisor, speaker, and writer who helps families be financially stable and grow their relationships. He works with families to help them reach their goals by teaching them about financial literacy and helping them develop a healthy relationship with money.

He has been featured in Sun Life Financials and others for his work as a financial coach. He is also the founder of Online Advisors Financial Education, which provides free educational content through blogs and videos.

Jack speaks at conferences across the Philippines on topics such as family finances, and personal and professional growth.  

You can contact Jack Marbida through his social media accounts or email him at papajackph@gmail.com.

Cheers!