The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Hacks

We've been married for 9 years, and I have to admit that marriage isn't as easy as the movies make it look. There are good times and bad times in any relationship, and we are not immune to this. But one thing is certain: if you don't quit up after going through terrible times, there will always be a benefit.

There are no lessons or courses on how to work through these problems together! That's why I think we should teach kids about marriage before they even start dating. This way, they'll know what they're getting into. I'm sure they have a lot to learn.

Let's get started with some wonderful lessons below. If you find anything that genuinely interests you, feel free to tell your friends and family about it. Please leave your opinion below or get in touch with me through my contacts.

1. Marriage is holy. Did you know that? Only do it if you really want to.

Getting married is a big deal, and you should think long and hard about it since there are a lot of bad things that may happen if things go wrong. It's more than simply a piece of paper that you sign. It's more spiritual. Before you make a legal and emotional commitment, it's crucial to make sure you're ready. You also need to get ready spiritually.


Why are you in a relationship if you don't know if you want to get married? I think the point of dating is to get married. If you're in a relationship for the program. You're becoming stuck in a loop of anger. Some people could go into partnerships only to have fun. Another horrible thing to think about.


If you only want to have fun in a relationship, why get married? You're just wasting your time and money. Love, trust, and devotion are what marriage is all about.

2. What is the foundation of marriage?

When we start to learn about marriage, we should remember that God is the basis of marriage. His love for us and ours for Him are what hold our marriages together. We got to this point in our marriage when I understood that being in love with my wife or being infatuated with her is not the main reason we got married. Because the affection we have for one other could alter when we quarrel. I need to remember that God is the cornerstone of marriage now that I know this notion.

This implies that your spouse can never take God's position in your life, and they shouldn't attempt. Before anything else can go well in your life together as husband and wife, you need to put your trust in Christ first.



When you're married, you have two individuals who will always be there for you, no matter what. But if one of them places their faith in something other than God, like money, things might go wrong quickly! And that's not safe.  

3. Learn to trust each other and forgive each other often.

From a seminar, I heard that marriage is the joining of two people who are willing to forgive each other. That's how marriage works.

But trust is a big part of a happy marriage. Being honest, talking to each other, and forgiving one other all help to build trust. It takes time to create, but it may be broken quickly. Trust is very crucial in all kinds of relationships, but especially in the most close ones, like marriage!



Trust is not the same as faith or confidence that someone will do what they say they will do (or not do anything). That's just having faith in them, and maybe even trusting them enough not to always check on what they say or do!

I once heard it defined like this: if two people have been together long enough to trust each other, then even if one of them does something horrible, the other person could still understand why it happened without needing an explanation from either person.

It could take a lot for someone to trust you again if they have a history of lying or cheating (or both). If they don't



If they don't comprehend why what they did was bad, it will be hard to stop doing it again. But at the end of the day, it's still important that we all forgive. I discovered this the hard way. We went to counseling, but the best thing that helped us was going through Glorious Hope from CCF. Give it a try; it's quite useful! A new program will commence in April 2024.

4. There will be times when you feel like giving up, but never give up on each other or yourselves. 

It's hard to be married. Many people assume that it's only a physical and emotional commitment, but it's also a spiritual one. It's not just about two people who love each other; it's also about God and His plan for your life.

It can seem like a lot of pressure to place on yourself and your partner, but this will help you both grow as people and make your tie indestructible, even by death (or divorce).

5. Marriage requires work but it is worth it in the end, remember that

Marriage takes effort, but it's worth it in the end. Remember that. Marriage is a lifelong commitment that takes work, but it's worth it in the end. Both people in a marriage have to make sacrifices and be committed, but it will be worth it in the end.

6. Do you know God's plan for marriage?

You might have heard the phrase "Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint." But did you know that God's purpose for marriage is more like an ultra-marathon? It should be seen as a race that lasts forever, not just until you die. You have heard about it during the wedding, when it is spoken, "till death do us part."


Marriage is supposed to show how much Christ loves us by how we treat each other. The Bible says, "Husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies; each one loves himself" (Ephesians 5:28). Jesus stated, "I give you a new commandment: love one another as I have loved you" (John 15:12). When we are married, we promise God that we would love our spouse every day for the rest of our lives.


How we treat each other has a lot to do with whether or not our marriage will work out. If one partner feels disliked by the other, it will be hard for them to stay devoted through any type of adversity or difficulty together."

7. Many of us did not study marriage first.

A lot of us didn't study marriage beforehand.We didn't learn about marriage initially.

-We didn't learn about marriage in school.
- We didn't learn about marriage in church.
-Our parents and grandparents may have been divorced or even abusive to one other, so we didn't learn about marriage from them.
-And our buddies, who were probably just as dumb (or worse) as we were, didn't give us any advice on how to be a decent spouse!

8. We learn a lot of things in high school, including arithmetic and history, but no one teaches us how to establish and keep a happy marriage.

If you're dating someone and contemplating about getting married, I would suggest that you learn more about marriage before you make the decision. One way to achieve this is to go to marital therapy with your partner. Before the wedding, we at our church CCF offer six full sessions of marital counseling.



I also think you should spend some time getting to know yourself before you get married. You can achieve this by having a private therapy session with your priest. Before the wedding, we at CCF church give six complete sessions of personal counseling.



These sessions will help you make a choice that will be good for both of you for a long time.



I would also suggest that you spend some time getting to know yourself before you get married. You may achieve this by talking to your pastor one-on-one. Before the wedding, we at CCF give six complete sessions of personal counseling. Going through these sessions will help you make a choice that will be good for both of you for a long time. They could stay together for the kids or because they don't know how to end the relationship. A few of them simply let it go.



If you are one of these folks, you should know that being unhappy does not mean you have a terrible marriage. You still love each other and want what's best for your family, but things aren't as nice as they used to be. If you don't go to any other marriage seminars, this might happen. You should search for groups or churches that organize biblical seminars on how couples should work so that we can learn from them instead of making mistakes.

9. There are various effects on both people and society as a whole when a marriage ends.

Divorce is not yet legal in the Philippines; we have annulment instead, but any way, it has a lot of effects. I don't see any nice things that it brings.


Divorce costs a lot of money and can be hard on your emotions. It impacts everyone, but notably the kids, who may have to deal with a lot of emotional pain during this time. Separation may also have an effect on society as a whole. Broken households lead to greater crime and poverty, which in turn lead to more broken homes. This is a cycle that we need to disrupt as soon as possible!

10. Marriage either succeeds or fails based on how much you put into it (time, energy, and money).

How much time, energy, and money you invest into your marriage will determine whether it works or not.
You can't expect to gain anything out of your marriage if you didn't put anything into it. It takes time, effort, and money to keep a marriage going.

This means that if two individuals don't want to put money into those things (and more), they definitely shouldn't get married in the first place.



You have to be dedicated and make sacrifices to be married. It means being there for your spouse even when they don't deserve it or when it's hard. It involves putting your own wants aside to help someone else.

It's okay if marriage isn't for everyone. Don't get married if you're not ready. If you aren't ready or willing to work on things together as a couple, marriage will simply make matters worse. If you want something real in your life, take some time to think about if marriage is the right thing for you and the sort of life you desire. Don't hurry into anything until it feels right. There's no use in waste time with someone who doesn't share your beliefs or aspirations simply because they asked for a ring.

About the author 

Jack Marbida is a husband to his wife Wene and a father of 2 little boys Isaac and Israel, he is a financial advisor, speaker, and writer who helps families be financially stable and grow their relationships. He works with families to help them reach their goals by teaching them about financial literacy and helping them develop a healthy relationship with money.

He has been featured in Sun Life Financials and others for his work as a financial coach. He is also the founder of Online Advisors Financial Education, which provides free educational content through blogs and videos.

Jack speaks at conferences across the Philippines on topics such as family finances, and personal and professional growth.  

You can contact Jack Marbida through his social media accounts or email him at papajackph@gmail.com.

Cheers!